You might not have realized this before, but your wedding rehearsal is the last event you and your spouse will attend as an unmarried couple. You want it to be special.
Unfortunately, it comes right in the midst of the wedding chaos.
With all of the planning, preparing, and stressing that you’re doing, it can be easy to forget about the rehearsal dinner until it’s almost arrived. How do you ensure this is a success without breaking your sanity?
First, you should…
Start to Plan Early
You don’t need to know all the specifics, but you can get the discussion going. A rehearsal dinner is something you can (and probably should) delegate, but first, you need to decide who’s hosting. There was a time when the groom’s family handled the rehearsal dinner, but that’s not always the case.
Even with someone else handling the details, it’s not a bad idea to give some high-level direction. Give some thoughts on the location, the food, the atmosphere, etc.
After all, you don’t want to show up at your own rehearsal dinner and feel like everything is wrong.
Obviously there will be the bride and groom’s families, along with the wedding party, and the officiator. From there, you can choose to open it up a little further. Maybe wedding party members can bring their significant others, or you invite a few relatives that are in town for the wedding.
You don’t want to lose the comfortable, intimate setting, but you also want to be welcoming.
How well the two sides of the bridal party know each other can vary greatly from wedding to wedding. If there’s some disconnect, the rehearsal dinner can be a great opportunity for everyone to become closer before the big day.
Encourage people to meet each other and socialize outside of their immediate friends. You could even assign seats to get them out of their comfort zones. Creating a bond between the wedding party will make the actual wedding that much more special.
When the wedding comes, the best man and maid of honor will give their speeches. The parents might share a special moment as well. But chances are, there are some other members of the wedding party with some memories or special words to share.
The rehearsal dinner can be a great time for this, allowing people to [quickly] share something about the bride and groom. This will likely bring about laughs and maybe tears while bringing everyone closer together.
Establish a Dress Code
The rehearsal dinner doesn’t have to be overly formal, but you want people to look nice. Just make sure everyone is on the same page with what they’re supposed to wear. Establish a dress code and communicate it to everyone attending.
Take Some Pictures
Sure, the wedding day will be filled with hundreds (if not thousands) of pictures. But the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner is a night worth remembering as well. The good news is, you don’t really need a professional photographer to get some decent looking pictures these days.
Snap some pictures with your smartphone. Encourage guests to do the same. Setup a way for them to share the photos with you.
Of course, if you happen to have a friend with some professional camera skills who’s willing to do you a favor, you can invite them along to the dinner as well.
For those who want a bit more socializing, you may consider meeting up somewhere after the rehearsal dinner. Perhaps enjoy a night cap in the company of friends.
Now, you’ll want to be cautious with this suggestion. The last thing you want is for everyone to be tired and groggy the day of the wedding because they celebrated too late the night before.
This can be a chance to invite a few more people who couldn’t come to the rehearsal dinner. Perhaps friends or family who have traveled from out of town.
The Right Food
You can’t have a successful rehearsal dinner without some great food. After all, dinner is literally in the name. So make sure you get it right. A great way to ensure quality results while saving yourself time and money is to use a professional caterer.
Taking everyone out to a restaurant for a rehearsal dinner can be costly and cramped. Using a caterer gives you flexibility on where your dinner is hosted without having to worry about food purchasing and prep the day before your wedding.
For a high end caterer at an affordable price, Rudy’s is here for you. Whether you need us for the rehearsal dinner, the reception, or both, we have the variety to meet your tastes (and taste buds).
Contact us today.