Should You See Each Other Before the Wedding?

While wedding trends and styles are constantly changing, there are a few traditions that virtually everyone follows. The bride wears white. The best man and maid of honor give speeches. The ceremony ends with the newly married couple kissing. The list goes on.

You may see a wedding here and there that change these things up, but it’s rare.

Not too long ago, “not seeing the bride before the ceremony” was among the sacred traditions. But that’s not really the case anymore.

The wedding attendants still won’t see the bride until she walks down the aisle, but the groom might (and the rest of the wedding party) might.

Now, superstition says that means bad luck for the newlyweds. But how exactly did this tradition start?

The History of a Tradition

Once upon a time, when weddings were a more arranged affair, it was common for the groom to never have seen the bride until the wedding ceremony. In fact, since she was often wearing a veil through most of the event, the groom wouldn’t see her face until the last second.

The reason behind this is far from romantic.

These arranged marriages were mostly deals of business and social standing. A father would want his daughter to marry a man of wealth, land, and standing. The trouble was, if the potential groom actually saw his bride-to-be, he might decide she wasn’t attractive and back out of the deal.

By hiding her under a veil until the last moment, the groom would be unable to back out without publicly humiliating himself.

While arranged marriages have fallen to the wayside, the tradition of not seeing the bride the day of the wedding remained. Why? Outside of general superstition, it was likely for dramatic effect.

There’s a certain magic to the groom witnessing his bride to be in her gown for the first time.

When the guests stand, the music changes, and the bride enters, the room is thick with emotion. By keeping the groom in the dark, the moment is amplified, washing away the anxiety as he falls in love with his bride all over again.

Why People are Starting to Skip It

The main reason it’s skipped is because of convenience. If the bride and groom don’t see each other till the ceremony, then there’s a lot of photos that need to be taken before the reception starts. Most weddings will take some photos before the ceremony, but if you’re keeping the bride and groom apart, you’ll have to put a break in there.

By allowing them to see each other before hand, you can get all of the photos taken care of beforehand, allowing for a quicker transition from ceremony to reception.

This has also led to a new wedding tradition emerging – The bride and groom reveal. Generally, the groom faces away from where the bride is entering. Then, when she is directly behind him, he turns to see his bride in her dress for the very first time.

The wedding photographer captures the entire moment, allowing them to remember it for years to come.

What’s Right for You?

Ultimately, it’s your wedding, and you should choose whatever option works best for you. If you want to be traditional, that’s great. If you want to switch things up, that’s fine too. Just have a great time and enjoy the day.

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