Planning a wedding can quickly become an overwhelming ordeal. You want everything to be perfect and magical and memorable. But the rest of your life doesn’t stop just because you got engaged. This is one of the main reasons why some people favor long engagements.
It allows them to breathe and plan at a rate that fits into their day-to-day lifestyle.
While extra time is nice, a drawn-out engagement comes with its own potential pitfalls. In our last post, we highlighted the good and the bad regarding short engagements. Today, we’re going to do the same for long engagements.
For the sake of this post, we’re classifying a long engagement as anything that’s 12 months and beyond.
Advantages of Long Engagements
The biggest advantage of a longer engagement is time. You can plan out details at a more natural pace. Rather than tackling multiple pieces of the wedding festivities at once, you can lock down one area at a time. This can reduce stress while providing an ongoing sense of progression.
It can also make it easier to coordinate bachelor/bachelorette festivities, engagement parties, etc.
Some people also use the extra time to plan out what their post-wedding life will look like rather than figure it out as they go.
Disadvantages of Long Engagements
Despite the reduction in immediate stress, there’s a greater chance of burnout and frustration with longer engagements. You plan so much for so long that you might overextend yourself and start to wear down.
Meanwhile, the people around you might think you’re already married, or even that the wedding is no longer happening because of how long it’s been. It’s not any of their business, but nevertheless, you’ll likely deal with these types of situations more in long engagements.
Once the wedding has come and gone, there’s a greater chance you’ll experience withdrawals. Married life might feel anticlimactic after the months and years of buildup. This is certainly something that can happen with shorter engagements, but once again, it’s more common and severe with longer engagements.
Finally, there is the guest list. While your guests will have more time to plan ahead, the people you want at your wedding could change over time. Friendships, working relationships, etc., can actually evolve quite a bit over a year or two.
Meanwhile, there’s a greater chance that an elderly relative or friend could pass away.
It’s About Finding What Works for You
When it comes to an engagement length, there isn’t a right or wrong answer. It’s about finding a period of time that works for you. The wedding date doesn’t have to be set immediately. Start up the planning process. Look at some venues.
Soon enough, you should have an idea of how long you’ll need.
Wedding planning shouldn’t make you miserable. Yes, it can be stressful at times, but ultimately, you should be excited. It’s a rare season that builds to the happiest day of your life. Enjoy it. And when the time comes to select a caterer, consider Rudy’s.
We have a wide range of catering services for weddings. Whether you’re working with a short timeline or a long one, Rudy’s is here to help your big day be a memorable (and delicious) one.